But facts aren’t what keep most men on the fence when it comes to vasectomy. We harbor secret worries about how the procedure will affect our virility – meaning our sex drive and ability to perform.
As men, we’ve been raised to think about ourselves in a specific way. The ultimate achievement is to be an alpha male, a man’s man.
Masculinity has moved so far beyond these outdated stereotypes and yet our sexual prowess remains a key indicator of rank. Virility and sex are intertwined.
But when doctors start talking about little snips to the scrotum, though we might be nodding on the outside, every internal instinct is screaming, “Run!” We may complain about using condoms, we may not want any more children, but we will protect our right to produce them at all costs.
Vasectomy in the simplest of terms blocks the transfer of sperm from the Gentle Procedures Clinic, that involves a small single cut that doesn’t even require stitches.
Having a strong sex drive is considered an indicator of masculinity for most Irish men.
It’s the elephant in the room when considering vasectomy – the thing none of us want to talk about.
So, what does affect our sex drive? Certainly, the drive is more imperative during younger years. Studies show it starts to diminish in our late 20’s.
That is not to suggest any sexual dysfunction – just that the uncontrolled urgency of our adolescence begins to fade – naturally enough as we gain maturity and control.
Testosterone levels also play a part in sustaining a healthy sex drive. Lower levels can reduce desire.
Vasectomy has no impact at all on testosterone. Meanwhile stress, chronic illness, depression, endocrine disorders, even sleep apnea can and do diminish our libido.
But what sleep apnea doesn’t do is let some doctor take a knife to our most prized physical possession.
It’s almost instinctive to associate virility with sexual prowess. Or is it that the world has evolved faster than our instincts? Because these harken back to the days when procreation was a critical male function. Sperm was king and ejaculation had a singular purpose – to populate the planet. The more children we produced, the more impressive we were seen to be.
That’s certainly not the case today. The planet is overflowing. Most men and women want control over the size of their families. They pay for birth control or they pay for child support.
There are hundreds of articles from credible medical sources explaining that vasectomy has no effect on virility. None. Yet when men are offered this simple, permanent solution, we cover our zippers with both hands and back out of the room.
There is nothing manly in expecting our wives or partners to go through a complicated tubal ligation because we refuse to face a simpler, less expensive procedure that doesn’t even require hospitalization.
Vasectomy is safe and minimally invasive. There is no change to the penis, erection, sexual drive or performance. We still ejaculate, the same way, the same amount, there’s just no sperm in the mix.
Vasectomy is a way to protect our wives and partners from unwanted pregnancies. They are the ones who must carry to term or terminate. We don’t have to put them through that decision.
Vasectomy is a one-time, affordable expense and once the sterilization process is complete, you can dispense with the cost and nuisance of birth control.
Better sex, one-time cost, grateful wife or partner. What more could a man want?